The following lectures, I believe, offer great clarity on how the Virgin Mary is to be rightly viewed, understood, and honored in the life of a Christian. If you listen to one, please listen to the other.

http://ancientfaith.com/specials/hopko_lectures/who_is_the_theotokos_part_1-1

http://ancientfaith.com/specials/hopko_lectures/who_is_the_theotokos_part_1-2